We often say that something is not “fair” when it does not go our way. However, when we are receiving things we do not deserve, we consider those times to be blessings. If we are honest with ourselves, we all at some point or another are guilty of this reaction. How do we handle life when our sovereign God takes us on a path that presents more days of tears than laughter. Where is the grace to help us to sustain our journey?
I have this crazy fantasy, I belive that all little girls dream of their wedding day, well maybe not all, but many. At 14 years old we have already promised our best friend the Maid of Honor position, we have chosen some wild colors, and we’ve even picked out our future husband. In that planning, we never factored in the possibility of our husband coming home and telling us that he does not want to be married anymore. When our fantasty becomes our reality but our reailty is a nightmare what do we do next? We only planned for the wedding, not the divorce now what?
Sometimes life seems so unfair, especially when we are doing our very best to please God. The mistakes and choices from the past sometimes appear to choke the very idea of a better future. Circumstances that seem never to change convince us that there’s no point in hoping for something better. However, if we stay the course and assign the events of our lives to God’s time instead our own, there’s never room for impossible.
This feeling is magnified when it comes to our children. As mothers, our very heartbeat is in cadence with our kids. We want nothing less than the best for them and with every heartbreak they experience, it chips away at the core of who we are, propelling us to a position of action. However, what do we do when the disappointment is caused by the very DNA that is a part of their existence? What do we do when the rejection they feel is based on a choice we made?
The phrase “hindsight is 20/20” rings true for all of us at some point. It explains that why we look back at a period of our lives or circumstance with a depth of clarity that we didn’t possess before. We look back through a clearer lens, understanding that what we deserved in consequences, we didn’t get. We see that our behavior warranted us to be counted out and dismissed from a life of purpose, but somehow we are currently experiencing another chance.
Have you ever experienced a period or season of life where you felt like everything that you never wanted to happen, happened? I mean the rain not only poured but your roof all of a sudden had a new hole in it over your bedroom. There have been times that we’ve considered that we must have done something really terrible, and God has to be mad at us!
There are some things we’ve known to happen to others but never desire or imagine that it would become a part of our story. For those who’ve had the opportunity to say “I do until death does us part,” never know when the death part will arrive. We somehow fantasize and hope for a “forever” will never come to an end. Life’s tendency is to interrupt our fairytale and, unfortunately, requires us to say goodbye – often abruptly and always before we’re ready.
There are so many resources available to women who are trying to live a pure life. Everywhere you turn, there’s blogs, books, or posts on social media that reminds us of what we stand for as women of God. Even with all that, how many of you can join with me and admit that more times than we would like to admit, we get it wrong!